Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Somewhat of an agreement made...

So, I have moved out and am all settled back in my old place and things are getting back to my normal old routine, I'm finding my groove again. Yesterday I received a check from my husband for $11,000 to pay off the condo related debt for his condo on my credit cards. I deposited it yesterday afternoon and to my surprise the bank already showed the funds 100% available. Normally they would hold a portion of it for several days to a week. I happily logged in to my credit cards this morning and paid one off completely and the other more than 75% of the way payed off. Now that's the kind of progress I like to see!! Should only be about 3 more months until I am completely debt free besides my mortgage. Then it will be time to beef up my savings and start putting money away to replace my 10 year old car. Ahhh, progress! :)

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

All moved and settled in...

I finally was able to retrieve all of my possessions from the condo that my husband and I lived in together and have moved back to my place. It feels really good to be back in my own space and have all my things around me, well except for the couches, he kept those, but I'm going shopping new ones this weekend. The move went fairly smoothly and it was easy to get settled in a place I'd lived before, everything went back in its place. All the pictures are on the walls and I'm settled. I'm still doing my counseling and he is still going as well, we even have a joint session later this week, hmm, maybe my actually moving out has opened his eyes a little? We both have issues to work on, I'm not without fault in the failing of our marriage, but we've got to see if we both want each other enough to try working on those things together. Should be interesting to see how it plays out. If he would first admit a drinking problem, I think we could make great strides in repairing our relationship, unfortunately, as of yet, he isn't admitting anything. I'll keep you posted on how it goes. Have a great day!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Getting divorced is more work than planning a wedding...

This is absolutely ridiculous, but it is a lot more work to get a divorce than it is to get married. My soon to be ex is making my life miserable in the meantime. I finally moved out of the house last Thursday and when I went back on Monday to get the rest of my clothes and personal belongings, he had barricaded the door! I had to call 911 to get assistance in order to get my things. Now he's been in a drunken stupor for several days, he shut off my cell phone and now his mom is here to try to reason with him and to help me get my stuff back. All I really want is my furniture I had before. I'm not asking for much really, a couple of the wedding gifts we received and for him to pay me back some, not all, of the money I put in to the condo for our renovations. He's retaining the condo, so I think he should pay me back for some of the upgrades, or at least pay off the debt that's been incurred throughout that process. Grrrr! Makes me so angry whenever I think about it, so for now, I'm not going to think about it. Just wanted to drop a quick little note on here so y'all didn't think I'd dropped off the face of the planet.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Getting ready to move and selling some stuff...

I am getting ready to move back in to my old condo and I am excited to be going back there. In the meantime, I am working on cleaning up some stuff and selling some stuff I don't need or want. Today I sold my full set of Harry Potter hardcover books on half.com and am pleased that I won't have to move them and I have made a little extra money on something I don't plan on needing or wanting again. The extra money will also help pay some of the debt down that was incurred while my husband and I were renovating our kitchen. I still haven't told my husband that I am moving back to my old place, in fact, I'm waiting until a day or two before I move. This is kind of the chicken way to do this, but it'll make the time easier to get through until it's time to move. I'm not sure how he's going to react, so I'm going to keep quiet until it's time to go. Is that bad? I'm really hoping he has to go out of town this month for work, finally he's back to his job and he should be needing to travel soon, so hopefully that will happen and I can move while he's out of town and it won't be so awkward. I'll be open and honest about telling him I'm leaving, but it would be much easier if he weren't around while I was moving stuff out. I'm also already mentally going through our stuff and figuring out what I will leave and what I will keep, I think I'm being pretty generous about what I'm planning on leaving for him. UGH! This whole thing is going to be so much better when it's behind me. I feel like I am living in limbo and just want to move on to the next phase. Not too much going on, but I thought I would let you all know where things stand. It's going to be better soon, I know it will. :)