Friday, April 30, 2010

Next month I'll be moving back here...

Here are some shots of the condo I own, that I've been renting out since I got married last November. I lived here for 2 1/2 years before getting married and never really did anything to make it "mine." I can't wait to get back in here and really make the place mine and show of my personality. It's almost like I'm starting with a blank canvas as it's all very "vanilla" right now. I'll keep you posted on changes I make as I do them...

From the top we have the bedroom, kitchen and 2 shots of the living room. It's really light and airy and I can't wait to really do it up. It also has a large bathroom and fairly good sized balcony which faces southwest, so it will be great to get out there and read a book when it warms up. Just about counting the days until I move back here! :)

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Occassionally things go exactly right...

The other day I had to go to my condo that I am currently renting out and meet a maintenance person. I've been debating when to tell my renter that I wouldn't be able to renew her lease when it's up in December since I will be moving back in. I decided to bite the bullet and left her a letter when I was there on Tuesday. I wanted to give her as much time as possible to find a new place to live and would be happy to amend her lease for early termination if she found something. Turns out, she isn't staying at the condo but only a couple of nights a week and is wanting to move back in with her boyfriend. Yay! She actually wants to be out by the end of May which is great for me, since I am trying to move out of the home I live in with my husband. This opening makes it much easier for me to leave, knowing I have a place to go and since he still refuses to get help for his drinking and such, I am leaving. I've told him that I am leaving if he doesn't quit drinking and so far I don't think he believes me. I just can't do it anymore. Not only is his drinking bad, but he's still on minimum wage from his job and refuses to look for something else, even part time. That coupled with the fact that we have blown through my savings of about $30,000 and racked up almost $13,000 in credit card debt while he's been underemployed and renovating the kitchen, I am done! I just can't take anymore! I'm so looking forward to being back in own condo and answering only to myself and doing what I want, when I want. It'll be nice to have a quiet, uneventful life again. :)

Thursday, April 22, 2010

The IRS is driving me crazy...

I am waiting for my tax refund in order to move out and proceed with the separation from my husband. We filed our taxes on Feb. 6 and are STILL waiting for our refund. He was a first time home buyer last year, prior to our wedding, so he is eligible for the rebate, which is why I think it's being held up. Originally the IRS website said we'd have our return by 4/13, then it switched to 4/27, now today it says we will have it by 5/25 as long as no errors are found. I've tried and tried to find a number to reach a human, but to no avail. Does anyone know how to get through to a REAL person at the IRS? I so want to get this taken care of so I can move forward. It's driving me crazy feeling like I am in limbo like this. HELP!!! :)

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Counseling update...

Yesterday we went to our first joint counseling session, pretty sure it will be our last one too. H doesn't think that it's worth it and isn't even trying, he thinks it is a waste of time and money, I guess that gives me some answers. We both have individual appointments scheduled next week, not sure if he'll go to his or not, but I wouldn't miss mine. It's helping me a lot and I guess I should be grateful for that right now. I have the divorce papers all drawn up and am ready to file them, I'm just waiting for the "right" time to make my move. He is suppose to be going to California in a couple of weeks which will give me time to move my stuff out, file the papers and get on with my life. Ha, I make it sound so easy, don't I? It's not, this decision is one I have been grappling with since December and H isn't willing to make any changes so I guess it's time for me to cut my losses and learn to be happy on my own again. I actually am really looking forward to doing it alone again, I was doing quite well and was happy, I know I can get there again.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Marriage update...

I have gone to a few sessions of counseling and today my husband went for his first one. He said it went fairly well and we are going together next Monday. Part of why I am holding off on moving out is that our tax return is due to arrive by the 27th and it's almost $10,000. Is that bad that I want to make sure I get my share of it? I'm interested to go home today and hear what the counselor had to say to him. DH has issues with me being too close to my family and I have issues with his drinking, so this should be interesting. Hmm...I'll keep you posted as to how it goes at home tonight.

Monday, April 12, 2010

A complete soc to the gut....

As many of you know, I was married for the first time at the age of 37 this past November. My husband and I have known each other since we were in middle school and we reconnected on Facebook about a year and a half ago. The entire time we dated, he lived in California and I lived in Washington, but saw one another almost every weekend. Where am I go with this? We are getting a divorce!! He has hidden from me a very serious alcohol problem. His work has been rather slow, so he's been "working" from home and earning minimum wage for quite awhile now and I've been footing the bill for both our current mortgage and what the rent doesn't cover on our rental unit (my former condo). I've been footing the bill for the renovations on our current condo and all the other bills. Imagine my surprise to find that he has been heading to the bars at night while I've been going to bed at a reasonable hour to get up and go to work the next day! We live within walking distance of several bars and he apparently frequents them all....often, as in pretty much every night Sunday-Thursday! He claims he has no problems except me! I've started counseling, but he refuses to go, he thinks he doesn't need it. I've already started separating our money and belongings and I am going this week to file divorce papers. Ugh! This is not how I saw my life working out, but he is refusing to get any help and refuses to acknowledge there is a problem. He told me that if I didn't lightened up let him have his fun, he'd divorce me. Well, I guess I'm going to beat him to the punch. Any advice? Thanks!